We Asked Men What They REALLY Think About The Smell Of Your Vagina

“Yes, some really do smell like fish or even rotten fish.”

When he goes down on you, it’s the most intimate kiss of all. But just as we have pretty strong feelings about what we encounter when we go down on men, the same can be said for our own lady parts.

And to that end, how we smell down there can either egg him on or make the fun halt pretty darn quick.

Basically, guys want girls to be ready for them in the same way we’d want them to be ready for us. And a part of that is to be clean and fresh before they get there. Because if they get down there and it’s smelly, that just may be a dealbreaker.

Others really turned on by your vagina smell — the right smell, that is. They can smell that you want them, or even if they can smell what time of the month it is. How wild is that?

We’re all very primal when you get down to it, and some men share just HOW strongly they feel about your vagina smell.

It’s the scent of lust.

“The scent of the vagina may change due to the time of day, month, diet and what she is wearing (or not wearing). I am about keeping clean and prefer tasting and smelling a woman in the natural freshness after a bath or shower. There are times when the hormones are on overload and the scent will attract me and make me want to have sex immediately.”

A clean and fresh vagina is perfect.

“Please be fresh and check things out every couple of days. If you’re just back from the gym, that’s fine, but not if something’s fishy!”

If she smells bad, it’s a dealbreaker.

“I’ve ended potential relationships over this. It wasn’t a matter of hygiene — I literally washed a former girlfriend but the smell remained. Can’t get hot for something you wouldn’t eat. It’s similar to bad breath. I had a girlfriend who flossed and brushed religiously but still had halitosis. She has plenty of suitors but it just wasn’t for me.”

I can tell when she’s getting her period.

“An ex would begin to smell differently closer to her period. It was like I never needed a calendar.”

One bad smell and I’m out the door.

“Ewwwww! If there’s a smell, put your pants back on. It’s over.”

It all has to do with diet.

“Yes, some really do smell like fish or even rotten fish. Others smell tart, more like tropical fruit, like pineapple. That’s way better. I’ve been told my pre-ejaculate also tastes like pineapple. And I’m clean and healthy, so that must be a big part of it on both sides.”

An unpleasant vagina can really derail things.

“Too perfumed or powdered definitely feels like something is being covered up. Naturally unpleasant? That’s no good either unless there’s a ‘reason.’ the going down process is involved and there’s little way to fake it.”

Both parties should prep beforehand.

“Spontaneous oral isn’t always the neatest or cleanest. You get the vagina you have. If there’s time, both parties should take a minute to do some prep.”

It’s an incredibly hot turn-on.

“When you’re trying to hide that you’re aroused, we still know. It’s intoxicating. Catching the scent of your heat is like pouring gasoline on a fire. Knowing that I’ve turned you on, mentally and physically, is both a tremendous compliment and aphrodisiac. The animal inside me rages to rip and tear your clothes off to continue what has clearly been started.”

Smell is very personal.

“I truly believe that it’s like choosing a fragrance, especially if you love going down there. If her vagina smell is not matching my taste, that can be a minus sign or even a dealbreaker. I am talking about regular smell as sometimes everyone can have some problems. Overall, it’s very important to me.”

Men And Women Masturbate Before A Date For Different Reasons

As the famous Kenny Rogers song goes, you gotta know when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em. That’s a song about poker (and life, man), but it could be about the gamble of going on a date too horny. Will oozing vibrant sexual energy make you seem confident and appealing, or awkwardly aroused all night? Enter “pre-bating,” which is masturbating before an event to quiet the sexual impulse for one reason or another. The term was added to Urban Dictionary in 2005, and though it’s typically only discussed as a male strategy, a recent episode of Dear White People showed a woman pre-bating too.

In the first episode of the second season, a woman named Sam (Logan Browning) is caught by roommate Joelle (Ashley Blaine Featherson) pre-bating with a vibrator before going to film class where she’ll see her ex, an act defined in the show as “when you take care of yourself so you don’t lose your mind in the company of problematic dick.”

It’s a curious departure from how we’ve seen pre-bating depicted before. As we wrote recently, we rarely see women masturbating in TV shows or movies at all, much less as something they’d do to keep themselves from making a bad choice. When men pre-bate, it’s shown as a strategy that’s effective because they likely won’t be getting laid that night, not necessarily because they shouldn’t.

That’s thanks to the film There’s Something About Mary, where Dom (Chris Elliott) advises Ted (Ben Stiller) that he’s nervous about going out with Mary because he’s got “baby batter on the brain,” and that “the most honest moment in a man’s life are the few minutes after he’s blown his load.” The idea here is that once he’s “no longer trying to get laid” he’ll be more appealing to her. So it’s not that he doesn’t want to have sex, it’s that he needs to be free from the all-encompassing impulse to try to get it, so he can act right and be more confident, too.

Other pre-bating advice for men typically comes up around sports. Well, not masturbation per se, but ejaculation in general, and whether or not doing so before a game helps performance or clears the nervous energy that can interfere with it. Contrast this with MMA fighter Ronda Rousey, who claims that sex before a fight raises her testosterone levels.

Another instance where men are advised to pre-bate is as a stopgap for premature ejaculation so that a man can last longer for the sex he expects to have later. This, obviously, isn’t a problem for women.

But whether you’re a man or woman who uses it to clear your head or avoid wanting to fuck someone you probably shouldn’t, people debate whether pre-bating is an effective strategy. On Reddit a few years ago, a self-described 25-year-old American male living in Israel wanted to know if the claims of pre-bating’s benefits were overhyped. Some responses were pragmatic. “Does jacking off calm your nerves?” one commenter asked. “Are you nervous before your date and think it’ll help you?”

Another said all it does is “dampen your libido,” which is fine since “it’s not like you’re getting laid on a first date anyway.” But another person called bullshit on the concept, arguing that it was advice “based on a stupid joke in a shitty Ben Stiller movie that was never meant to be taken seriously by anyone.”

Another commenter said it absolutely works, not for lasting longer in bed, but for “getting the horny-ness out.” And many chimed in to agree. That it keeps you level headed before a date, and is especially good for people who “make bad judgments when they feel horny.” Others said it provides the insurance of not “poppin’ hella boners when I first meet them.” But those commenters sound overwhelmingly male, and the advice on the practice seems overwhelmingly aimed at men. One site, in 2012, called it “the new pre-gaming for men.”

Anecdotes on women who use pre-bating are more difficult to find. One forum asking if women do this only got a few responses, and they all said no: “We’re too busy trying to look pretty.” A woman on one forum said it didn’t apply to her because “not everybody loses those horny feelings after orgasm,” and in her case, one orgasm only increases the likelihood of another. “If I were getting ready to go on a date with a man I found particularly sexually attractive,” she wrote, “rubbing one out would just make it more difficult to control myself.

In response to the Dear White People episode, one woman on Twitter said the practice resonated with her, calling it the “realist shit I ever heard.”Even if pre-bating is still under the radar for women, or simply, like many things women do, less discussed in public forums, Refinery29 spoke to a doctor, Megan Stubbs, who listed numerous benefits for women who opt to knock one out before a date, in addition to avoiding an ill-advised hookup. Women who pre-bate will be more relaxed, more confident, more in control, and — heads up to that woman who said she was too busy trying to look pretty before a date to rub one out — it also provides woman with a “warm, healthy glow.” Just as long as it doesn’t make you hornier, we guess. Although, as one Redditor noted in opposition to the practice before a first date: “Being horny makes it more fun.”

The Science Behind How A Woman Can Decide In 30 Seconds Whether She’ll Sleep With A Man

It’s something both men and women know to be true. Whether you heard it on television, or as a nugget of wisdom passed on to you somewhere along the way, we’ve all been told at one point “Women decide within the first 30 seconds of meeting of a guy whether or not they’re going to sleep with him.” The truism differs from person to person. Some people claim it takes just 8.3 seconds, others say 3 minutes, and it seems to taper off at a solid 5 minutes. So 30 seconds is a good happy medium… but one can’t help but wonder how on earth someone could make such a weighty decision so fast. (Though, to be fair, men probably make this call in milliseconds.) A study recently dipped into the question of how long it takes for a woman to make the call, and just how the decision occurs. Here’s the science behind how a woman can decide within 30 seconds whether or not she’ll to sleep with a man.

Waiting Time A study conducted this year in the U.K. found that women on average wait between two and three weeks before they have sex with a new guy. About 32 percent of women say they wait until their fifth date.

Other findings The study also found that 15 percent of women think it’s okay to have sex on the first date, whereas 22 percent of men feel this way. About 78 percent of men and women feel it’s okay to kiss on the first date.

The Accepted Stats Based on that info, and general wisdom on the subject, men are quick to make decisions about whether or not they’re interested, while women take more time. But another recent study in the U.K. shows the exact opposite is true.

90 Seconds Another U.K. study surveyed over 2,000 singles. They found that women on average give a man a mere 90 seconds to win them over. Within a minute and half women have already decided whether they’ll ever see you again. Meanwhile, men proved more forgiving, offering a full five minute audition to potential mates before writing them off.

How We know that women make these calls faster, so the question is why. One reason has to do with the factors that influence the decision. For instance, women are more affected by easily recognizable factors when it comes to interest in the opposite sex. In the study, 51 percent of women said that the nature of the date, meaning where it takes place and the effort put into it, is a determining factor in whether they’ll see the man again, whereas men showed little interest in this fact.

Looks Shockingly, a significantly larger percentage of women cited looks as a deciding factor than men. The study said 38 percent of women consider looks in that first 90 seconds, as opposed to 27 percent of men who make the call in the first 5 minutes.

Wrong Some women who participated in the study admitted that they’d been wrong. For instance, they may have made the call within that first ninety seconds based on looks, only to find on later in the date that the man had a better personality than they originally noticed. When this occurs, women report they they experience heightened physical attraction to the man.

Lady Expert One self-proclaimed “expert on women” challenges the truism with his own spin on the idea. A leading voice in the pick-up artist community, which is a subculture that teaches strategies for meeting and sleeping with women, claims “It’s not that a woman decides in the first 30 seconds that they’re going to sleep with you. It’s that they decide within the first 30 seconds of meeting a guy that they’re not going to sleep with you.” The first 30 seconds you get a chance to prove you’re worth considering. After that, if you make it, there’s still work to be done.

180 Seconds Perhaps ladies in the U.S. aren’t as quick to judge as they are in the U.K. A study conducted by author Ben Kay surveyed 3,000 women to see how long it takes them to figure out whether they’re interested. Part of the reason why they’re able to do so with such quickness is because they judge their potential mates on more subtle and implicit characteristics than the ones men use to judge women.

Interaction According to the Kay study, one of the factors women use to make the call is the way men interact with other people, from their friends, to the waiter at the restaurant.

Instincts One belief espoused by the Kay studied that’s echoed elsewhere is the idea that women are reliant on instinct than men. Women tend to be more connected to their instinct and intuition. Most women said they take 180 seconds to make the call, and once they’ve made it, they rarely ever change their mind.

Breaking Instinct However, for some reason, many women admit that they regularly go against their instinct, and give men another chance to impress them even if they failed to win them over in the initial 180 seconds. Women report that 89 percent of the time, their initial instincts proved correct. This tendency to go against their instinctual response leads a lot of men to feel they’ve been led on.

Body Langauge Another factor in the quickness with which women make these judgements is their attention to body language. According to the survey, 54 percent of women said this played a key role into the decision making process. Since body language is gauged instinctually and far more quickly than conversation, it can lead to quick judgements

How vs. What Surprisingly, one survey of American adult women found women aren’t especially interested in the content of conversation when it comes to making a first impression. In fact, only 7 percent of women said that what a guy says during conversation made a big difference in his first impression. On the other hand, 38 percent said that the way he says what he says during that conversation made a big impact.

Evolution and Reproduction We’ve learned women can make quick calls about potential mates because they’re more moved by implicit features and they’re more reliant on instinct and intuition, but another factor has to do with evolution and reproduction. Both men and women are genetically moved to want to reproduce, but for men the investment into that process doesn’t have to be significant. For women, it’s an incredibly affecting process which makes them more selective. Furthermore, time is more of the essence when it comes to female reproduction, thus, there’s a need to make choices to that end with a certain degree of quickness.

This Is Your Biggest Dating Secret Weapon (and You Might Not Even Be Using It)

You might call it your gut instinct or prefer a more nebulous term like “the stomach tingles,” but either way, your women’s intuition is a serious gift. Think about it: women were originally armed with intuition as a way to stay safe when getting eaten by wild animals was a daily threat. Saying evolution has honed our inner alarms is an understatement. So why do so many women make it a habit to ignore their body’s built-in danger and douchebag radars?

Let’s say you meet a guy, and something just sets you on edge about him. Maybe he makes eye contact a little too long, or perhaps you get a weird feeling when he smiles. But you tell yourself he’s nice, so why not give him a shot, right? Wrong. Women are brought up to be people-pleasers, but it’s not your job to put up with guys who jumble your insides in exactly the wrong way just so you won’t offend them!
I’m not saying every dude who feels off to you is actually dangerous, although women’s intuition can definitely be useful in those cases (if you want to hear more about that, I recommend checking out The Gift of Fear, an incredible book by Gavin de Becker). Just that sometimes your lizard brain can process things on a deeper level than you normally do on the surface, and that’s a valuable thing that shouldn’t be ignored.

Haven’t you ever ended something with some escaped demon from hell disguised as a human man only to tell yourself you “should have known”? The thing is, you saying that is admitting to yourself that you did know. You picked up on the signs, knew something was off, and stayed because you hoped it would work. Absolutely no judgment here, because I’ve been there myself. It takes some time to learn these lessons. Then my paranoia kicked in, and following my intuition has steered me well in safety, dating, and situations where the two intersect ever since. I just love spreading the “listen to your intuition!” gospel because it’s an easy way to keep you as healthy and happy as possible (and it just reinforces that women are amazing, which you already knew).
Do you try to tune into your women’s intuition? When was the time you were most thankful for it? One wonderful benefit of listening to your intuition is that it can help you find your dream guy. Here are a few other ways to do just that.

7 His Secret Obsession Phrases That Make a Man Fall In Love

It might come to you as a surprise but it isn’t just women who need to be reassured with love phrases, often men can be just as insecure and unsure as their female counterparts. When it comes to love, men tend to act all manly and emotionally strong. While this mean seem nice to an extent (as no one wants an emotionally weak, crying man) when it comes to mutual love, it takes an emotional man to be romantic, loving, caring and above all able to show appreciation and return the love extended towards him by his partner. Men need motivation and inspiration, and Obsession Phrases are the triggers that gets the juice of love flowing.

According to Kelsey Diamond, there Obsession Phrases that every man desire to hear, these words are not just phrases but phrases mixed with strong emotions that a man cannot resist. Men find women who can verbally express themselves not only sexy but very attractive and words have been proven to be an avenue to unlock the love valve of a man. Men most times are in secure and for you to get a man permanently hooked to you will require the extra mile from you. So what are these obsession phrases? and which ones can you start using on your man right away?. Here are 7 Obsession Phrases that will work on your man.

Emotional Triggers – Love Phrases That Makes a Man Fall in Love
Emotional Triggers are essential phrases that triggers the emotional part of any man. These are words that stimulates the desire part of a man and leaves him wanting, needing and showing affection towards you. These words are carefully crafted to trigger uncontrollable urge that leaves a man in tuned spirit soul and body towards another person most especially a lady. These Love Phrases are simple yet powerful words that make any man rearrange his life just to be with a lady. Learn more about Emotional Triggers OR continue reading for some examples.

Attraction Spinner Phrase – “I Want You”
If you want to help your man with his insecurities then nothing will work more than telling him that you want him. Men can sometimes feel as though they are pestering women when it comes to things like sex, which means that they might feel uncomfortable bringing the subject up or touching you without invitation. Telling a man that you want him is the perfect way to put his mind at ease and let him know that you desire him to an equal amount. Try attraction spinner phrase today and watch your man desire you ever more everyday.

Examples of Obsession Phrases by Kelsey Diamond

Razzle Dazzle Phrase – “Have You Been Working Out?”
Every man wants to know that his woman finds him attractive and often men can be equally if not more body conscious than women. You can’t compliment a man in the same way that you might compliment a women though and this is why “have you been working out?” is such a perfect love phrase to use, even if you know your man hasn’t seen a gym in years. It proves that you have really looked at them and you are impressed with what you see. Here are some other razzle dazzle phrase that helps your man’s ego.
Razzle Dazzle Phrase – “Have You Grown?”
It isn’t the size it is how you use it right, is the best known lie that has ever been told. The fact is that it doesn’t matter how big your man’s tackle is, they will always be worried that you have either seen bigger or that they are not satisfying you enough. Asking your man during intercourse whether his tackle has grown is a great love phrase that will really boost not only his ego but his performance too. This razzle dazzle phrase work perfectly well for men who are self conscious of how big it’s down there or how well you feel them. Using this phrase will not only please your man but make him happy and ready to please you more.

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Secret Obsession Phrase – I Love It When You Do That
Men can sometimes be a little unsure and clumsy when it comes to a woman’s body. Telling your man that you like what he is doing will help to boost his confidence in the bedroom and it will also encourage him to try and do it again. Often women can be a little closed off when it comes to sex and this makes it a lot harder on the man to try and get it right, so using little love phrases during the action can really bring your man’s game back on track. This secret obsession phrase has been proven to work especially when it comes improving the sexual experience between partners.
Monogamy Awakener Phrase – “You Make Me Feel Safe”
Every man has an alpha dog inside of him that reaches out whenever there is danger. If you are a strong independent woman then at times you might forget about your partner’s need and urge to look after and protect you. This can often make a man feel like he isn’t doing enough and that can really knock his confidence. Telling your man that he makes you feel safe is a great way of telling him that you are doing it right and it is defiantly a love phrase that your man will want to hear. If you want your man to be committed to you and you alone, monogamy awakener phrase is what you need to start using on him.
Everlasting Attraction Phrase – “I’m Your Woman”
It has never been easier to get in touch with people; the internet has become a breeding ground for communication for both those you know and those you don’t. If your man is the jealous type or the type to feel inferior to others then reassure him. Tell him that you are his and no one else’s. This simple love phrase can really change the way that a man feels about his partner. It shows that you are dedicated to him and him alone. Everlasting attraction phrase is what you need if you want your man to take his eyes off other women.
Love Cocktail phrase – “I love you”
The ultimate love phrase that any man wants to hear from his woman is of course that you love him. Although words must always be backed up by actions, this simple phrase can really show a person just how much they mean to you. Men might not be known for their deep talks about feelings but that doesn’t mean that they don’t have any and it certainly doesn’t mean that they want to be kept in the dark about yours. Love cocktail phrase is the the phrase you need to be using on your man every day.

In conclusion
Sometimes it can be easy to forget that the man in the relationship needs reassurance and affection too but that doesn’t make it any less true. If you think that your man has been down recently and it is because you haven’t been paying enough attention then use one or more of these love phrases to set his mind back at ease, after all if you really love your man, then why wouldn’t you want him to be as confident and happy as possible?

His Secret Obsession Hero Instinct Review

Whether you’re in a thriving, fulfilling romance, or one that you feel is just crumbling around you, there is always a way to improve your relationship with the person you love. Sure, love letters and chocolates may work for some people, but if you’re really trying to reach a deeper level with the man in your life, it may be time to look into something further: Continue to read His Secret Obsession review to find out if this is the program for you.

Created by relationship and dating expert James Bauer, His Secret Obsession is a relationship guide featuring a brand new approach to connecting with any man in your love life. Based on his 12 years of research as a dating coach, Bauer believes he’s found a positive communicative pattern that helps relationships flourish, and with this book, he hopes to spread it to anyone who needs it. So here’s a little glimpse into how it all works, and what this relationship guide can do for you and the man you love.

What is the “secret” of this book?

According to Bauer, there is a primal instinct that all men have. And very few women or men themselves are even aware of it! It’s not the one you’d predict, like sex or even hunger (though you could possibly win some men over with a cheeseburger), but rather, something much deeper. This phenomenon is known as “The Hero Instinct,” and properly engaging it may be the number one trick to winning a man’s heart.

The Hero Instinct is the key to many, many desires that a man may hold. As a whole, this instinct basically embodies:

The need to take charge
The need to make a difference
The need to “earn” things, including love
The need to be a protector
The need to…well…be needed!

In His Secret Obsession, James dissects just how the Hero Instinct phrases work, why it is so vital to a man, and what you can do in a relationship to make sure these needs are fulfilled–without even trying.

What will it help me with?

This book is specifically crafted to teach you how to fulfil the desires of your man and really bolster your romantic relationship. That being said, the book does not encourage you to let your man walk all over you just to satisfy his desires. Rather, his desires can actually be fulfilled while satisfying your needs at the same time; all you have to do is make sure your significant other knows that he’s a vital part in that process.

Throughout his publication, James includes a wide array of romantic techniques, even pre-written phrases and messages, which Bauer claims his clients have used successfully to rekindle their relationships. This clean-cut method and instruction will remove the guesswork often featured in so many other relationship help books.

His Secret Obsession also includes a vast selection of “secret signals,” comprised of various trigger phrases that work verbally, non-verbally, and even over text and instant messaging. All of these are meant to tap into the core of the Hero Instinct in men.

These secret signals are plentiful, and serve a wide range of romantic purposes. They include…

The X-ray Question: This allows you to receive a clear affirmation of where you are in your relationship.
The Glimpse Phrase: This gives a man a hint at who you are, while sparking his desire to know more about you.
The Silent Action Signal: This signal discreetly shows that you want to fulfill the Hero Instinct in a man, triggering the man to have a strong sense of longing towards you.
The Fascinating Signal: This will signal to a man that you’re a truly fascinating individual, prompting an emotional attraction that will leave him hooked on you.
The Private Island: This signal basically lets him know that you truly are “The One.”

…and many more.

While all of these signals may sound a bit abstract, this program will teach you clearly how to embody every single one of them. And with this arsenal of romantic knowledge at your fingertips, you’ll be able to ignite something much deeper in your relationship.

What’s the purpose of all this?

Overall, James predicts that once a man’s partner fulfils his Hero Instinct, it will work wonders for the relationship for a long time to come. Readers can look forward to a newfound respect and dedication from their husband, boyfriend, or even romantic interest, all because you are pulling him in with a profound understanding of his needs. A man may also open up further about his feelings, become a more active communicator, and may just form a deeper connection and love towards you as a whole. All of this works according to Bauer’s theory: once a man feels he is needed, he’ll be willing to work even harder to fulfill your needs, as you also worked to fulfil his.

How can I get a copy?

Anyone interested in the details of Bauer’s promising new romantic approach can purchase a copy of his book on the official website (link below). It is currently only available in ebook form, but is accessible through mobile devices as well as on a PC. The website also features an even more in-depth look at the book with a detailed video presentation, narrated by Bauer himself.

One more great thing about the product is that it offers a 60-day money back guarantee. If you aren’t satisfied with the improvement in your relationship after practicing the instructions in this book, you are more than welcome to send it back for a full refund; that is how confident Bauer is that his techniques will work.

Verdict

For anyone seeking an answer to what may be lacking in their relationship, His Secret Obsession phrases may just hold the key to unlocking that question for you. Whether you’re yearning to ignite a lost love or a love newly found, this book offers a comprehensive look into how to do so, and offers a great and solid place to start. All you have to do is find what works for your relationship, and his new obsession may very well be you.

He Doesn’t Want a Perfect Girlfriend, He Wants This…

Let me ask you something…

How much time do you spend trying to be the kind of woman you think men want?

If you’re like most women I talk to, it’s a LOT.

You spend all this time making yourself look sexy and attractive…

You spend all this time presenting yourself as fun, interesting, worldly, and not needy in the slightest…

You spend all this time showing him just how good you’d be for him…

How amazing his future would be if he chose you as the woman by his side…

And… it doesn’t work.

It never works.

WHY?

Why do you work so hard…

And the guy in your life just takes you for granted, if he even notices you at all?

It’s probably because he’s immature, right?

He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone.

Or maybe it’s this…

It’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him.

Here’s something you need to know…

If He Doesn’t Work for Your Relationship, He Won’t Value It
Fact: What men value most are those things they have to work hard to get.

Hand a man a college diploma, and he won’t value it as much as if he’d had to put in years of study and effort to earn it.

Hand a man the perfect girlfriend, and he won’t value her as much as if he’d had to woo her for weeks just to get her to go out with him.

This is why playing hard to get works.

But, as you’ve probably already noticed…

There’s a BIG problem with playing hard to get.

That strategy stops working once he’s actually got you.

Something happens when guys decide they’ve won you. It’s almost like they think, “Game over.”

Their minds are already on their next challenge.

What is going on?!

And how can you stop it from wrecking your relationship?

It’s Not Just You-ALL Women Experience This (That’s Why They Ask for Help)
Sadly, many women give up on love.

They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off.

But other women try a different approach.

They get help.

My friend and relationship coach, James Bauer, is one of the people they turn to.

He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going great, and then it was like…

Something would change overnight.

A guy who’d been warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant.

He’d no longer have any time for her.

He wouldn’t greet her with a smile.

He’d stop making eye contact.

His kisses were dull and cold.

Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.

And what he discovered made sense of everything.

He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed … and what they weren’t getting.

It didn’t come down to anything wrong with these women.

Rather, it all came down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”

(Listen to James talking about The Hero Instinct here.)

Most Women Do Something that Drives Men Away… Without Ever Realizing It
One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.

Look at you. You’re always there for your guy.

You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him.

You never realize that, in the process…

You’re actually taking something away from him.

You’re taking away his purpose.

You see, he wants to be your hero.

He doesn’t want you to be his hero.

Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.

Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world… and get the girl at the same time.

Most men don’t get to indulge in world-saving efforts with their 9-5 jobs.

Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing the superman side of themselves.

Maybe they can’t save the world like they dreamt about when they were kids… But they can still get the girl.

And getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero.

For most men, it takes superhuman confidence. It takes superhuman charm. And it takes superhuman immunity to pain.

Now, all he needs to find is…

A girl who needs a hero.

Do You Need a Hero?
Let me guess…

That’s not you…

You’re strong. You’re independent.

You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself.

Am I right?

You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.

Instead, you have a lot to offer a man.

You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault.

All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.

And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life.

That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead. Guys who take everything from you and leave you high and dry.

If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one.

Here’s how…

3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today

Ask a guy for help.

Here’s what you should do…

Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf.

Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation.

No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.

Take pleasure in male company.

Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men.

So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles?

He’s a guy. It’s okay.

You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.

Let him earn your respect.

Superheroes love challenges.

They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up.

They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate. They want to earn it.

There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love:

A challenge.

So give him opportunities to prove himself.

You don’t have to do the work of winning him over.

Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.

Here’s What Mastering These 3 Strategies Does to a Man
If you practice these 3 tips faithfully…

You ask him for the kind of help only a man can provide,
You make it clear how much you enjoy male company, and
You let him win your respect and admiration…

You’ll be amazed at how the man in your life responds.

He’s finally found a woman who needs him, likes him, and respects the man he tries so hard to be.

Those are the 3 things he was always looking for.

He wasn’t looking for a woman with a perfect body.

He wasn’t looking for a woman to do everything for him.

He wasn’t looking for a woman willing to give him unconditional love at the drop of a hat.

He was looking for a woman to bring out the hero in him.

Once he finds her, he’ll never let her go.

To find out more about how you can bring out the Hero in him, click here for a short video…

Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

P.S. Most women don’t know this… but even if a man is attracted to you or even says he loves you…

…chances are he still feels something is missing.

Because there is a secret, emotional need hidden within his heart that he craves more than anything.

And in most cases, is not being met.

The problem is, if it’s not being met, his attention will inevitably wander until he finds a woman who can give it to him.

Maybe one in a thousand women knows how to do this instinctively, and they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

But most women, or men for that matter, don’t even know it exists.

On the other hand, when you have this 1 simple secret…

You won’t believe the shocking effect you have on the men in your life.

Here’s a video that shows you exactly what I’m talking about…

3 Ways to Trigger The Hero Instinct in Your Man

One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.

Look at you. You’re always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him.

You never realize that, in the process…

You’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

You see, he wants to be your hero. He doesn’t want you to be his hero.

Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.

Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world—and get the girl at the same time.

Most men don’t get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.

Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get the girl.

Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is…

A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess… That’s not you.

You’re strong. You’re independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself. You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.

Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.

And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead. Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one.

Here Are 3 Ways to Trigger a Man’s Hero Instinct

Ask a guy for help.
Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.
Take pleasure in male company.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team?

So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.

Let him earn your respect.
Superheroes love challenges. They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate.

They want to earn it. There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love: A challenge. So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don’t have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.

The rare woman who can satisfy this emotional need in men has an almost supernatural allure that is impossible to resist.

The great thing about this is that it’s about trying to pretend like you’re someone you’re not… it’s about getting men to fall madly in love with the REAL you…

And satisfy a man’s hidden, emotional need in a way that will captivate his heart so that he’ll go to the ends of the earth to please you.

His Hero Instinct is the hidden need that makes him feel MORE than just attraction
Most women don’t know this… but even if a man is attracted to you or even says he loves you…

…chances are he still feels something is missing.

Because this secret, emotional need hidden within his heart that he craves more than anything… And in most cases, is not being met.

The problem is, if his Hero Instinct is not being met, his attention will inevitably wander until he finds a woman who can give it to him.

Maybe one in a thousand women knows how to do this instinctively, and they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

But most women, or men for that matter, don’t even know it exists.

On the other hand, when you have the secret of the Hero Instinct, you won’t believe the shocking effect you have on the men in your life.

If you’re ready to have your man melt in your hands and go to the ends of the earth to please and love you, learn more about the Hero Instinct by going here…